Map your own private constellation
Constellations function as an overlay that allows us to collectively reference common terms for organizing the scatter of stars into something about which we can then converse. It’s easy to understand that there is no relationship at all between the mythological character Orion and the stars that comprise his belt. They don’t even look like a belt. The word ‘star’ is the same thing. It has no real connection to the thing it signifies. It just gives us a common reference point so we can distinguish stars from the scatter of other stuff. The word ‘mind’, the word ‘love’. They aren’t empty, but the things they signify are as loosely coupled, barely coupled at all, with those words as the concept of a big or little bear is with an arbitrary cluster of stars that happen, by proximity and brightness, to look, only from a very specific vantage point, like there might be any relationship between them at all.
Go out and look up. Pick out a handful of stars that forms a cluster that reminds you of something. Name it. I’ve done so. I look for it every time I’m under the night sky, and it feels good to find it. It’s a secret that will die with me.